I am sure at some point people will stop looking here on a regular basis. What I am doing now is more for me. I am now letting you into my broken heart.
I know many of you have heard this already but I thought I would go through what happened medically. My mom had noticed early in the day that the drain attached to his colon did not look right. It had been put in a couple of weeks before to help drain the infection. She mentioned this to the surgeon and he said that it was normal and that we should not be concerned. We found out about the
MRSA that morning as well. It was in a dormant stage. They believe it came through the
trach and they were beginning to get him off of the
trach. He was doing so well with the ventilator that they did not see any problem with him being off of it. My question was if they could get him back on the ventilator. I was told yes but that was improbable at this point. My dad asked the lung doctor is the
MRSA was going to hurt those that came to see him. For those of you that did not have the pleasure of knowing him, that was the man he was. He was always concerned about what others. The doctors were amazed that someone in his condition was concerned about others. My mom went home that evening telling me that she was unhappy with how he looked and acted. We knew that he had a long day and that he was tired from all that his body was fighting. Around 12:30 my mom got a call asking that she come the hospital. She had spoken to another family that had been called for no reason in the middle of the night. She thought that she was going to be in the same situation. She got there and realized it was not good. They had noticed that the kidneys had started to shut down. The lungs were shutting down and they were trying to put in the larger
trach so they could put him on the ventilator. The blood pressure dropped and heart rate increased. They tried to medicate him to stabilize the heart rate. They told my mom that the only thing they had left to do was actually beat on his chest. She realized it was time to make a decision. She went out to talk to David and they agreed that they did not want that. He looked at the face of God at 6:05 a.m. January 7
th.
I go between being over joyed thinking about what he has done already in heaven to looking at my young baby's face thinking of all he will miss. I have thought of several things I am going to put on here over the next several days. I just have to get them on here.
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5 comments:
Melissa
Thank you for sharing these intimate details and thoughts with us. Our hearts ache for you and your family's loss. While some may think I'm nuts, when I have lost someone close, I speak to God and ask Him to let them know things for me. As far as I understand to be asbent from the body is to be present with God as a christian. And while we can not talk directly to the person, we can talk to God and they are in His presence. Take this for what it is worth, but I have found comfort in it.For God to create the Heavens and the Earth, I would think this would be a small task to ask of Him. Also remember that he knows your heart even when words will not come.
Take care. Lauri Jensen
My heart aches and I am wiping my tears...may you and your family find healing with the passage of time and take comfort in knowing that your dad was well loved and will be sorely missed.
Love, Vicki
Melissa, I have a couple of pictures I would love to share with you and your family. Is there an e-mail address you can send me so that I may pass them on? ABelcher@Polkmechanical.com
Your family is still in my prayers. Not a day goes by that Frank doesn't enter the thoughts of us here at Polk Mechanical. We truly loved him like he was family.
Take care,
Amber Belcher
To my precious little sister-in-Christ. You are such an wonderful representive of how much your two parents loved and guided you as you were growing up. You are such a blessing to everyone. Thank you for letting us see inside your heart. Please know we loved yoor parents so very much and always will, Death can not stop our love or our memories.
Bobbie and Bill Reed
Melissa,
I would just like to let you know that I understand how your heart aches right now and what you and your family are going through. It is tough to lose someone who you are so close to and look up to with such great respect and even though you yourself are a christian and the person you love so much is a christian, your heart still fills robbed and your mind still spins with questions, but just remember, you will always be able to carry your father with you in your heart and that can't be taken away from you. It has always been a great comfort to me to know that when I lose someone dear to me, that I can still keep them alive in my heart by looking at pictures and remembering all the precious memories that we shared, while they were still here with me. I know it isn't the same as being with them, but for me, it makes me feel that I can let their spirit live on, until I can see them again someday. I hope you and your family can do the same. I didn't know your father all that well, but I do know that he was a very good man and a very good neighbor. I will miss always seeing him in the yard waving hello and wearing a big smile on his face. My heart is with you and your family.
Take care,
Kim Hildewig
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